There’s still a couple of days left before I’m completely done with this semester, but I wanted to share one of the websites that I have been using to procrastinate: Nolongerquivering.com
This website shares some of the experiences of women who have sought to leave the Quiverfull movement, which forbades the use of birth control, encourages women to stay at home, and requires women to wear conservative clothing. The most restrictive groups won’t let women wear anything but skirts and dresses, and many of the groups encourage homeschooling.
The movement that they are talking about is profiled on the TLC Show 16 kids and Counting (Is it now 17 kids?) and has received a lot of press in recent years. One of the posts that I read today is called “The Beautiful Girlhood Doll.” It chronicles the story of a young girl who desperate to find a future for herself that includes something beyond motherhood and submission to her husband. She writes about how she longed for her father to give a boy permission to court her and cherished her purity ring. She also talks about how she was never able to fell pure – in spite of the fact that she had never kissed a boy, never held his hand, and knew few boys her own age.
The stories on the site are beautiful and haunting. When I was first discovered it, I spent two hours on the site. I had never been raised in a house that conservative, but something about it resonated with me. Check it out.
*Note: The quote in the title is also from this website. I can’t remember which entry I found it in, but I liked it too much not to use it. The quote if I remember correctly is from someone who had 10 or 12 children, if not more, and found herself wishing that she had fewer so that she could devote time to each one. She stressed that she loved them all, loved them so much in fact that she regretted her decision to have so many that she couldn’t adequately provide for them.